A message board I belong to, has a membership of several writers that post on Leslita and several other popular sites.
Luna Zax, a writer I happen to love and respect, posted a message, complaining about male writers that are basically clueless about the inner workings of girl-girl sexuality.
Here is her post:
I always wonder if what I find erotic matches that of other women... other lesbians... or other female readers of lesbian erotic stories.
Because I read some things, and I just don't get the "rave responses" to their stories. To me.... much of what is out there is bad writing or a male interpretation of female to female love and lovemaking.
Here's some of my pet peeves with this stuff:
* Any erotic story where the female character immediately (either as a thought or when speaking) uses the word cunt, I am turned off. The word is a fine fun word, but it should not be used casually. I only use cunt when having sexy dirty talk with a partner. In my head I don't refer to my sexual organs as my cunt, nor do I say to my friends, "I need someone to lick my cunt tonight."
* Any erotic story where a girl mentions her bra size when describing herself. (I'm about 5'6, red hair, green eyes, I'm really thin, and I have 36D tits!) I mean, when have you ever read a personal ad from a guy, where he says "I'm about 5'10", 155 lbs, and I wear size 34 boxer shorts". I'm sorry, but I don't define myself or describe myself using my bra size. It's a cute fun fact that can be spoken among friends and flirting partners, but not something that is just causally dropped in conversation.
And it's also funny that every girl is 32, 34, or 36 and has a C cup or greater, but never larger than DD. Or even better when a girl is really skinny at 115 lbs, but still has 36DD breasts.
* Automatic lesbians... As much as we wish it... As much as the world has changed... And as much as there are more sexually curious girls than ever before, every girl is not a lesbian, every girl is not curious, and every girl does not have a secret girl-crush/fantasy based on the truth or dare game they played during a slumber party last year.
These fantasies can still be fun, but if you use cliches they need to be well written..
* Seduction is almost more sexy than the action after the seduction... Flirting is fun... the not knowing whether someone is into you or not.... the hesitation or awkwardness of a first kiss with someone new... This is fun and exciting, don't rush past it to get to the good stuff.
* Anal Sex and Fetishes should never be introduced lightly. We all have fantasies, and we can act them out in stories and roleplays and the like. But it should never just be thrown in without any thought or planning. Discussion is always important. Lubrication is always important. Planning and purchasing is always important and can be very much fun.
That's all for now, I think....
Here is my response:
Luna darling -
Thank you for putting this into words, I have often thought several of these things myself, and I agree on several points.
I am not afraid of, nor do I avoid the word cunt. I have a very "expressive" vocabulary and never shy from using foul language in the right setting. I do indeed say to my friends, sometimes in public, "I need someone to lick my cunt tonight."
In fact, I have a problem with adult women who are so repressed they still refer to their vagina as "down there". I mean c'mon girls... say it with me now: CUNT. There... was that so hard? (((giggle)))
Also, I do include characters bra sizes in my stories because I know that the majority of my readers are MEN that are primarily ruled and driven by their libido's. I am not talking about casual conversation, I am talking about erotica (or in my case, stroke stories) and I have a desire to be a popular read.
As I said, my readers are primarily men, and they need to be filled with references and visual imagery, so I do include details like that. Although, I have not written anything new in like 9 months, I continue to check stats on my old stories, and it's nice to know that I still get many hits at Leslita and Kristen's and SOL.
Erotica is fantasy tinged with realism in my opinion, and I do like to keep it as close to real as I can. However, I also like to make it hot and nasty for the poor guys that dream of having a teen girl (or 2 or 3) engage in the type of sex he will never see or have in real life!
I am not trying to start an argument or appear contrary, but I felt that I needed to express my views on the subject as well.
XOXO & respect,
If ya'll don't know Luna's work, here's a link to her blog:
THIS IS LUNA ZAX
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